Why Egoism Dissolves Your Relationships
Selfishness Dissolves Relationships…
Selfishness is something we all have. If we look closely at ourselves, we will find that we all behave selfishly at times.
However, if the element of selfishness is strong in the relationship, it is very likely to be the reason that this particular relationship (or all your relationships) is not healthy and functional.
It makes sense to be selfish sometimes. However, we must recognize this feeling but also accept it, so that it does not gradually become an obstacle to building quality relationships.
Many times, both people behave selfishly in a relationship. As a result, there are many conflicts and tensions and the relationship may even lead to separation.
If there is no mutual understanding and mutual respect, as well as the intention to put each other in their place, then the rupture is one of the possible endings of the relationship.
But what are the characteristics of a selfish person?
What causes egoism when it is largely in the relationship? And how can he finally break it up?
The Main Characteristics of a Selfish Man
We can very easily distinguish a selfish one, as long as we know its basic characteristics.
The most common and most easily found in a person who is selfish, and of course in our partner, are the following:
#1 He does not admit his mistakes.
#2 He never makes concessions.
#3 He always wants to be right.
#4 He blames others for his mistakes.
#5 He does not care about the emotional impact of his actions on those around him. Recognizes the points that someone is vulnerable and uses them against him.
#6 He may show manipulative behavior in order to pass his own.
#7 He considers himself superior to others.
#8 He wants to control everything.
#9 It is not easy to share.
#10 It offers no value to others.
Of course, it is extremely rare for someone to combine all ten of these features. Usually, selfish people combine some of these characteristics. However, this list is a sample of the most basic behaviors that one who is selfish can have.
But if one exhibits only one or two of these behaviors, then this does not necessarily mean that one is selfish. He just has some weaknesses and some selfish behaviors, like all of us.
How Selfishness Dissolves Your Relationships
In any case, whatever person you have towards you and no matter how selfish it seems to you, in the end you will have to look at yourself and find how you will function better, you will not behave selfishly and of course, you will be able to deal with them selfish around you.
Once you realize that there is nothing more important than yourself, you will be able to deal with what arises and most importantly, eliminate your selfish behaviors in your relationships.
Because it all starts with us.
Many times, selfish people become toxic and create toxic relationships.
1. Selfishness Dissolves Your Relationships Because Due To Selfishness, You Don’t Communicate Properly With Woman
Selfishness prevents you from creating a quality and deep communication with your partner.
If you are both selfish, it will be very difficult to communicate effectively, as you both want to be right and you have no intention of resolving your issues.
This can often bring you into conflict and ruin your relationship in the long run.
2. There Are Often Conflicts, Tensions And Improper Behaviors
Precisely because you can not really communicate, there are frequent tensions and conflicts in the relationship.
This is due to the fact that you both refuse to make concessions and put yourself in each other’s shoes.
In your mind, it is more valuable to be right than to have a functional and harmonious relationship.
Therefore, when something goes wrong in the relationship, you collide and do not finally resolve the issue.
3. You Are Not In The mood to really listen to each other because you are selfish
Selfishness gets in the way of really listening to what the other person has to say, as everyone only thinks about what they want to say.
Also, because selfish people tend to blame those around them, it will be very difficult for them to become active listeners.
Essentially, they do not care what the other person has to say, as long as their own is heard and they are right.
This creates huge issues in the relationship in the long run, as you have virtually no intention of listening to how the other person feels, as long as you do not back down and show that you were wrong.
- Because of Selfishness, You Do Not Understand How the Other Feels
Because the selfish person only looks to be good to himself and is indifferent to the feelings that his actions create in others, he refuses to take the place of his interlocutor and to understand how it can make him feel.
And that can be catastrophic.
If there is no empathy in a relationship, then toxic and negative emotions will be constantly created.
One or both will feel permanently wronged and that their partner is not interested in how they feel.
In a healthy relationship, people want and seek to be and feel good about their partner.
If this very important part is missing, then the relationship becomes catastrophic.
You have to be very careful, because a selfish behavior easily turns into manipulative.
In closing, I want to emphasize that every relationship has pieces that are not so functional.
However, keeping both people constantly selfish can be extremely toxic to both or even lead to separation.
That’s why it’s good to work on our selfish parts and, above all, to accept them. Recognizing and accepting these behaviors is the first step towards their complete elimination.
In addition, we need to understand that a healthy relationship needs empathy, that is, the ability to recognize and care for the other person’s feelings. As well as mutual concessions when needed.
If we operate selfishly, then we do not care to have a successful and quality relationship, but to be good only ourselves.
And this, of course, never leads to the desired erotic results.