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She was in Heaven for 11 minutes and she Comes Back to Tell Her Story (video)

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She was in Heaven for 11 minutes and she Comes Back to Tell Her Story (video)

One day back in September, Charlotte Holmes watched from above as a dozen medical personnel surrounded her hospital bed and fought heroically to bring her back from death. One staff member knelt astride of her on the bed, delivering chest compressions as others administered drugs, adjusted monitors and called out readings. In the corner of the room, Charlotte saw her husband Danny watching, alone and scared.

Then, she smelled the most wonderfully intoxicating fragrance she’d ever smelled. And with that, heaven opened before her. 

Charlotte, who has lived with Danny in Mammoth for 48 years, had been admitted three days earlier to Cox South Hospital in Springfield after she went for a routine checkup with her cardiologist and was sent directly to the hospital when her blood pressure spiked at 234 / 134. 

“I’ve always had trouble with my blood pressure, and I’ve been in the hospital two or three times before when they put me on IV medication to bring it down,” she said. “That time, in September, I’d been there three days, and I was hooked up to all the heart monitors. They had just given me a sponge bath in my bed, and they were putting a clean hospital gown on me when it happened. I can’t remember anything about that moment, but Danny said I just fell over, and one of the nurses said, ‘Oh my gosh. She’s not breathing.’”

Danny told her later that her eyes were wide open, and she seemed to be staring. The nurse ran out of the room, and called a code, bringing a crowd of medical personnel rushing into the room. One got up on the bed and began the chest compressions. 

“I thought I wasn’t gonna bring you home,” Danny told her later.

That was the moment, Charlotte said, when “I came out above my body. I was looking down on everything. I could see them working on me on the bed. I could see Danny standing in the corner.”

And then came the wonderful fragrance. 

“The most beautiful, wonderful smell, like nothing I’d ever smelled before. I’m a flower person; I love flowers, and there were these flowers that had this fragrance you can’t even imagine,” she said. 

The flowers were part of a scene that suddenly unfolded before her. “God took me to a place beyond anything I could ever have imagined,” she said. “I opened my eyes, and I was in awe. There were waterfalls, creeks, hills, gorgeous scenery. And there was the most beautiful music, like angels singing and people singing with them, so soothing. The grass and trees and flowers were swaying in time with the music.”

Then she saw the angels. “There were several angels, but these were humongous, and their wings were iridescent. They would take one wing and fan it out, and I could feel the wind on my face from the angels’ wings,” she said. 

“You know, we’ve all imagined what heaven will be like. But this … this was a million times more than anything I could have imagined,” Charlotte said. “I was in awe.”

Then she saw “the golden gates, and beyond them, standing there smiling and waving at me, were my mom and dad and sister.”

Charlotte’s mother, Mabel Willbanks, was 56 when she died of a heart attack. Charlotte’s sister Wanda Carter had been 60-something when she too had a heart attack and died in her sleep. Her dad, Hershel Willbanks, had lived into his 80s but then died “a very sad death” due to lung problems, she said.

But there they were, smiling out at her from just beyond the golden gates, looking happy and healthy. “They had no glasses, and they looked like they were in their 40s. They were so excited to see me,” Charlotte said.       

Her cousin Darrell Willbanks, who’d been like a brother to her, was there too. Darrell had lost a leg before he died of heart problems. But there he was, standing on two good legs and happily waving at her. 

Charlotte Holmes

A blindingly bright light streamed from behind her loved ones and the huge crowd of people standing with them. Charlotte is sure the light was God. 

She was turning her head away to save her eyes – the light was so bright – when something else caught her eye. It was a little boy, a toddler. “He stood there in front of my mom and dad,” she said.

For a moment, Charlotte was confused. Whose boy was that? she wondered. But as soon as the question came into her mind, she felt God answering it.

It was her and Danny’s son, the baby she had miscarried nearly 40 years ago when she was five and a half months pregnant.

“Back then, they didn’t let you hold the baby or bury it when you miscarried that far along. They just held him up and said, ‘It’s a little boy.’ And that was all. It was over. I went through a long, deep depression after that miscarriage, wishing I could have held him,” she said.   

Seeing her little son standing with her parents, she said, “I couldn’t wait to hold him. I had missed that.”

It was all so wonderful, heaven was. And, from beyond the golden gates, she felt God saying, “Welcome home.”

“But then, I turned my head away from that bright light again and looked behind me. And there were Danny and Chrystal and Brody and Shai,” she said referring to her and Danny’s daughter Chrystal Meek and her adults kids Brody and Shai. “They were crying, and it broke my heart. We know that in heaven there is no sorrow, but I hadn’t walked through the gates. I wasn’t there yet. I thought how I wanted to see Shai get married and Brody get married to make sure they were OK.”

At that moment she felt God telling her she had a choice. “You can stay home, or you can go back. But if you go back, you have to tell your story. You have to explain what you’ve seen and tell my message, and that message is that I’m coming soon for my church, my bride,” Charlotte said.

About that time, as Danny was watching the emergency responders continue the chest compressions, he heard one of them ask, “Paddles?” apparently referring to an electro-shock defibrilator. 

He heard the person in charge answer no and instead order some kind of shot. “And then he said a guy comes running in, and they give me the shot, and he could see on the monitors that my blood pressure was going down,” Charlotte said.

And then, Danny told her afterward, he saw one of Charlotte’s eyes blink, “and I knew you were coming back to me.”

Charlotte had been dead 11 minutes. 

When she came to, she started to cry. Danny asked her, “Mama, are you hurting?” 

Charlotte shook her head no. And then she asked him, “Did you smell those flowers?”

Danny had messaged Chrystal the moment Charlotte had stopped breathing, and Chrystal had rounded up her kids and they all rushed to Springfield, arriving at Charlotte’s side just as she was being taken to ICU.

When she saw Chrystal coming toward her, the first thing Charlotte said to her was, “Did you smell the flowers?”

Chrystal turned to her dad and said, “Huh?”

Danny shrugged. “I don’t know,” he said. “She keeps saying she smelled flowers.”

Charlotte was in the hospital another couple of weeks, and during that time, “I couldn’t stop talking about it. I’ve got this burning in my life and my soul. I got to see something so amazing, and I’ve just got to tell people about it. Heaven is a million times better than you can imagine. I stop people in the grocery store. I even stopped my mailman and told him. I’m not bashful. I want to share this story wherever I can.”

When she was in heaven, she felt God telling her that, when she went back, she would see angels. “And just in the last month, I’ve started seeing them. I can see people guardian angels behind them,” she said. 

Charlotte has always been a devout Christian. She and Danny are part of the band that provides the music at Mammoth Assembly of God. “But now, more than anything, my favorite thing to do is pray with people. Danny even built me a prayer closet. He knows if he wakes up at 3 a.m. and I’m gone, that’s where I am. It’s so important to me, and in doing this, I’ve heard from so many other people with their testimony.” 

Charlotte has told her story at several churches and meetings of other groups in the area. 

“I just can’t keep from talking about it. And there’s so much more to the story. I don’t want people to think I’m crazy – well, I don’t care if they think I’m crazy. I know what the Lord showed me, and I can’t quit saying how wonderful and merciful God is,” she said.

from link: http://ozarkcountytimes.com/news-local-news/when-charlotte%e2%80%99s-heart-stopped-her-amazing-visit-heaven-began/

By Sue Ann Jones, sueann@ozarkcountytimes.com

The scary story of the girl who escaped from the dark and cruel Amish community

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The scary story of the girl who escaped from the dark and cruel Amish community

The Amish are a traditional Christian fraternity known for their simple lives, their simple attire and their reluctance to embrace the many comforts of modern technology. Despite their differences, they are closely associated with the Mennonite church.

The history of the Amish church began with a schism in Switzerland within a group of Swiss Baptists in Alsace in 1693 under the leadership of Jakob Ammann. Those who followed Ammann became known as the Amish.

In the early 18th century, many Amish and Mennonites immigrated to Pennsylvania for a variety of reasons. Today, the more traditional descendants of the Amish continue to speak Pennsylvania German, also known as Pennsylvania Dutch. However, a Swiss-Germanic dialect predominates in some communities of the Old Amish Order, especially in the US state of Indiana. As of 2000, more than 165,000 Old Class Amish live in the United States and about 1,500 live in Canada. A 2008 study showed that their population has grown to 227,000. In 2010 their population had grown by 10% in the last two years to 249,000, with increasing movement to the west.

The history of the Amish church began with a schism in Switzerland within a group
of Swiss Baptists in Alsace in 1693 under the leadership of Jakob Ammann.

Amish church members begin with baptism, usually between the ages of 16 and 25. This is required for marriage and when a person is associated with the church, he or she can be married by faith. Church parishes include an average of 20 to 40 families, and worship services are held every other Sunday at a member’s home. The parish is led by a bishop and several priests and deacons. The rules of the church, the Ordnung, must be obeyed by all members and cover most aspects of daily life. The rules include prohibitions or restrictions on the use of electricity, telephones, cars, and even clothing. Most Amish do not buy private insurance or participate in social security. As modern-day Baptists, members of the Amish church offer virtually no resistance and do not perform any kind of military service.

Members who do not comply with these community rules and are not persuaded to repent are expelled. Nearly 90% of Amish teens choose to be baptized and join the Church. Rumspringa is a process that enables teens to get out and get to know the world away from the Amish. Those who return become worthy members of the community. Amish church groups seek to maintain segregation from the non-Amish world. There is generally a strong attachment to church and family relationships. As a rule, they run their own schools in one room and interrupt the formal education in the eighth grade (age 13-14). They value rural life, manual labor and humility.

The Amish way of life is dictated by the Ordnung, which differs slightly from community to community, and, within a community, from region to region. Something that is acceptable in one community may not be acceptable in another. No description of the Amish way of life and culture can be entirely adequate, as there are some generalities that apply to all Amish. Groups can be divided on issues such as the width of a hat, the color of the carriage, or other issues. The births of children, their upbringing and socializing with neighbors and relatives are the biggest functions of Amish families. All Amish believe that large families are a blessing from God. The Amish are one of the fastest growing populations in the world, averaging seven children per family.

As time goes on, the Amish are under pressure from the modern world. Issues such as taxation, education, laws and enforcement, and occasionally discrimination and hostility, present difficulties. The Amish way of life in general is increasingly different from that of modern society. In some cases, this has led to sporadic discrimination and hostility from their neighbors, such as throwing stones or other objects at Amish carts in the streets. Amish usually do not educate their children after the eighth grade, believing that the basic knowledge offered up to that point is sufficient to prepare them for the Amish way of life. Almost no Amish go to high school and college. In many communities, Amish run their own schools, which are usually one-room with young unmarried female teachers from the Amish community.

As all Amish come from the families of the 200 pioneers of the 18th century, their communities are plagued by very high rates of genetic abnormalities due to intermarriage. For the same reason, they have a very high child mortality rate, something that certainly does not discourage the faithful, since they attribute it to the “will of God”. Amish refuse to undergo prenatal screening or premarital testing for the degree of kinship of the future couple.

Kate Stoltzfus before leaving the Amish community.

There are many people in the Amish communities, especially young people, who do not feel as much as they struggle that they can continue to live in a world clinging to the ways and customs of hundreds of years ago. Those children of Amish families who decide that they want another, more autonomous and short life for themselves must suffer apart from the terrible psychological pressures of their family and the aphorism of their entire community to which there is absolutely no possibility to return, if they decide that they do not want to be baptized and stay close to their own people.

A documentary that made a big splash in America a while ago and is titled “Breaking Amish” examines the lives of 5 young people who were stubborn and finally managed to escape from the dark and cruel Amish society.

Kate Stoltzfuz is the one who became better known through the narration of the series and the one who managed to make her dream come true, then realized a career as a model and designer.

From Amish on the cover of Maxim.

In the teaser trailer of the series on the internet, we see a 21-year-old girl, Kate, unable to operate an elevator and a young 32-year-old man, Jeremiah, struggling to withdraw money from an ATM. We also see their awkward attempts to buy new, non-Amish, clothes. And special underwear!

Although at this stage no one knows the exact identity and origin of the protagonists, and whether they really come from an Amish society. But they certainly come from miles away from New York.

Amish sleep in beds with wooden partitions. In this way they make sure that
the couple’s sexual intercourse does not happen on purpose except for reproduction.

The 21-year-old aspiring model, the daughter of the bishop of her village, is trying to adapt to the technology of modern culture. She can’t understand the operation of her hotel’s plastic plastic key and her elevator is causing problems! The young girl had always dreamed of a career in fashion, but her strict father had forbidden any object of “vanity”, leading little Kate to paint her nails with markers. As he says on camera, “I just need to get away and find out who I really am.”

Meanwhile, Jeremiah leaves behind his girlfriend Amish to live life in the city. “I was adopted and I was thrown into this Amish stupidity, you know, it’s not that cool,” he has to say. He tells his girlfriend that he can not deny the opportunity to visit New York, an opportunity given to him by the network behind a reality show such as “Toddlers and Tiaras” (!!!). At one point he is shown struggling with an ATM and saying to the camera: “He has never used an ATM before, this thing started making money.”

At the same time, Rebecca, the youngest cast in her 20s, is experiencing her own crisis. She struggles to endure even the air trip to New York, where according to her co-stars she cried and prayed. Like Kate, Rebecca dreams of becoming a model. She is described by the network as a “realist who wants to explore but understands the consequences of not finding a job and is responsible”. The young woman, who once shocked her family by punching a classmate at school, hopes to eat sushi while in New York, but above all, she hopes to fall in love.

Another character, 22-year-old Abe, is just tired of the daily monotony of his community. Although his elderly mother is supportive at first, he eventually travels to New York in a desperate attempt to lure her son, and others, back. The quarrel between the woman and the others is accompanied by the announcer saying: “One needs to have big balls to leave the Amish”.

The last character, 25-year-old Sabrina, is an adopted child of the Amish Mennonites, originally from Italy and Puerto Rico. Crying, she talks about the difficulties of leaving an Amish community and how she was told she would go to hell. She hopes to work in an Italian or Puerto Rican restaurant to learn more about her heritage, and I hope to find out about her parents.

The trailer closes with the group fooling around with the Big Apple skyscrapers and one of them shouting “I have never seen so many people go nowhere!”.

from: https://www.womantoc.gr/life/article/h-tromaktiki-istoria-tis-kopelas-pou-drapetefse-apo-tin-skoteini-kai-skliri-koinotita-ton-amish

ZOMBIE APOCALYPSE! Most Dangerous Street In Philadelphia, USA (video)

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ZOMBIE APOCALYPSE! Most Dangerous Street In Philadelphia, USA (video)

Kensington Philadelphia Drug & Crime Problems

Violent crime and drug abuse in Philadelphia as a whole is a major problem. The city’s violent crime rate is higher than the national average and other similarly sized metropolitan areas. Also alarming is Philadelphia’s drug overdose rate. The number of drug overdose deaths in the city increased by 50% from 2013 to 2015, with more than twice as many deaths from drug overdoses as deaths from homicides in 2015. A big part of Philadelphia’s problems stem from the crime rate and drug abuse in Kensington.

Because of the high number of drugs in Kensington, the neighborhood has a drug crime rate of 3.57, the third-highest rate by neighborhood in Philadelphia. Like a lot of the country, a big part of this issue is a result of the opioid epidemic. Opioid abuse has skyrocketed over the last two decades in the United States and Philadelphia is no exception. Along with having a high rate of drug overdose deaths, 80% percent of Philadelphia’s overdose deaths involved opioids and Kensington is a big contributor to this number. This Philly neighborhood is purportedly the largest open-air narcotics market for heroin on the East Coast with many neighboring residents flocking to the area for heroin and other opioids. With such a high number of drugs in Kensington, many state and local officials have zoned in on this area to try and tackle Philadelphia’s problem.

Here are the most dangerous neighborhoods in Philadelphia for 2021. The rankings are calculated based on the number of violent crimes per 100,000 people for each neighborhood, compared to the Philadelphia violent crime average. Violent crimes include murder, rape, robbery and assault. The most dangerous areas in Philadelphia is based on data from the local law enforcement agency and when not available, also includes estimates based on demographic data:

https://www.areavibes.com/philadelphia-pa/most-dangerous-neighborhoods/

This video show you the chaos in Philadelphia:

How to recognize and how to deal with a narcissist personality?

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How to recognize and how to deal with a narcissist personality?

The ancient Greeks described it exceptionally thousands of years ago, in their mythological narratives. Narcissus, in love with himself, failed to lift his eyes from his idol and was doomed to look at it forever. Greek mythology struck a chord, as narcissism is a real prison from which, experts claim, it is almost impossible to get out. It is a condemnation especially for people who focus only on themselves. Because they are often exploited, manipulated and sometimes destroyed. Even if it is impossible to change them, you can always learn to defend against their attacks.

Very often they are men

According to an Italian study by Tonino Candelmi, a psychiatrist at Regina Margherita Hospital in Rome and author of Narciso sono io (I am a narcissist), four out of ten Europeans are narcissists. In fact, in two of these cases it is “serious narcissism”, a personality disorder.

Men are twice as affected as women. “However, we need to make a distinction”, emphasizes Stavroula Zarkada, psychologist-psychotherapist and adds: “Self-confidence and ambition can be considered a kind of healthy narcissism, because they help you to confirm, without trampling on those around you There is, however, a pathological form in which others consider themselves an extension of themselves, and therefore belong to their service.It is not always easy to reveal these cases: these narcissists act in an insidious, usually veiled way. behind a mask of generosity “.

How to recognize a narcissist personality

The American Psychiatric Association has set some criteria. These are the most important ones that will help you find him.

He has excessive self-esteem. He loves himself very much and is vain. He is often a successful person, particularly rude, who needs to constantly show his superiority, which depends on the opinion of others.

Always looking for admiration. Narcissists are doomed to give thanks to be thanked: they are held hostage to their need for confirmation from others.

He believes that he deserves more. The overly egocentric, believing that he is unique, claims that he has privileged characteristics. His mentality can be summed up in the phrase: “You owe me this”.

Manipulates people. Uses others to get what he wants. When he is not admired, he often says what others want him to hear and pretends to be good and available.

He does not think about the feelings of others. Narcissists lack an important talent: emotional understanding, the ability, that is, to come in contact with each other, to understand and share their feelings. They treat people like mirrors, necessary to support their “scene” and to relieve the stress that overwhelms them.

He is jealous, although he thinks he is enviable. Convinced that he is the best, the pathological narcissist does not accept to come second. He believes that they envy him, while he envies anyone who can deprive him of the first place.

He is arrogant. As he does not tolerate frustration, he often becomes arrogant and may have outbursts of anger, sometimes very intense.

How to predict his movements

It is clear that anyone with such a personality, despite the desire to look superior to anyone, is in fact tormented by enormous insecurity. “The problem is that because he considers himself omnipotent, he hardly recognizes that he needs help and, therefore, that he needs to change,” explains Stavroula Zarkada.

Thus, whoever lives near him must be very careful and, above all, have great inner strength so as not to fall into his trap. It is better to be prepared, because the chance of falling for a narcissist, in your personal or professional life, is high. “The biggest mistake is to try to satisfy his demands. The more he gets, the more he wants, since it is never enough for him,” says the psychotherapist. Never expect a normal relationship with a narcissist, because he has a completely distorted sense of reality. Another trap you may fall into is trying to justify it: “He can’t behave like that forever.” Or to think that “deep down he is good”. It is wrong, because these rationalizations are imposed by the difficulty of accepting that for the narcissist you do not count at all. It is a reality that hurts, but admitting it is the first step to defending yourself.

Learn to deal with it

In order not to be overwhelmed, you must learn to control two emotions: anger and fear. The first is caused by finding that your needs are being violated. “It’s a healthy feeling, but in order to be effective it has to be transformed into a confirmation: ‘I’m'” the expert advises. This could mean, for example, that you plan your day in such a way that you do not leave room for the narcissist ‘s demands. “For the most insecure people, narcissistic aggression can be overwhelming enough to make them lose all confidence in themselves,” she said. It is a perverted game that allows it to maintain its power.

That is why it is necessary to take action:

In your relationship

Better to stay away “Often a narcissistic partner is fascinating, but the relationship reveals its true nature: selfish, manipulative, authoritarian,” says the psychotherapist. How to escape? “Get away from it while you are at the beginning,” the expert suggests. “Better yet, to give him the impression that he is leaving you, because otherwise he will try to take revenge on you.” The best excuse to get rid of him is to show him that you do not deserve him. Can’t you do it? Remember that with such a partner you are doomed to be an extension of his vanity: the only “protagonist” is him!

Defend your personality If you are already married and have children with a narcissist, it is difficult to break up your marriage. To limit the loss, the strategy is to move away emotionally, which means not expecting the care that every woman seeks from her partner. Do not try to change him, learn to defend your personality, even if he tries to crush it.

Do not lose your self-confidence Create friendships and interests outside the family, which will help you find her again. And if your partner looks good, appreciate his gesture. But remember that it can be a tactic to regain control of the situation.

At work

Do not doubt your professionalism The narcissistic boss is a very common “personality”. “Protected from his leadership position, he is often an aggressive hypocrite, trying to show his superiority in a cunning way, not explosive, but capable of provoking the submission of others,” she said. “His tactics are deadly: he tries to make you feel that you are always wrong or that you are inadequate. It is never clear what exactly he wants and with this exhausting tactic he manages to attack the most vulnerable people.” How can you neutralize the narcissist boss’s attacks? Without being angry, calmly show that you are sure of the work you have done. And if he insists that you are useless, repeat this phrase: “I am sure I worked in the best possible way.” Without defending yourself, without lowering yourself and, most importantly, without losing confidence in your abilities.

Understand his weaknesses To coexist with a boss like this, if you do not have the ability to change jobs, the only way is to understand that he is not a strong person, as he wants to make you believe. This is exactly how it works because it wants to cover up its deep insecurities.

In the family

Defend yourself, without waiting for recognition “If you do not have the ability to cut ties, the only strategy is self-defense,” says the expert. “This means that you have to set clear boundaries in order to be able to respect yourself and, at the same time, be available, within a reasonable framework.” If, for example, your mother-in-law is constantly trying to interfere in your life, you should stop her by setting clear rules: “You do not need to arrange my drawers, I have them on purpose.” The important thing, once you decide to follow this strategy, is to never give up in order not to give it space. She may complain and find this behavior selfish, but she is the real selfish one. Do not be surprised if your brother never says “thank you”: for him it means that he must admit that he needs you, while he wants to avoid any sacrifice and does not want to depend on anyone. When doing something for a narcissistic relative, never expect recognition.

Reward yourself If, indeed, you need a reward, go out and buy something for yourself – a book, a cream. “It is a tactic that I always recommend to my patients when they are oppressed by narcissists, and which I apply myself,” adds the psychotherapist. Follow this system as if it were a cure, deciding in advance your “reward”. It will boost your self-esteem when someone puts you to the test. “

Stavroula Zarkada, psychologist-psychotherapist, collaborated.

from: https://www.shape.gr/life/sex-sxeseis/1000668/pos-na-anagnoriseis-kai-pos-na-antimetopiseis-enan-narkisso/?amp=true&fbclid=IwAR3hj_ZKQqfbArMqmZA6g4IMF2cKqcFsDWOLXDiGhhGwz5SNbwSlPfvT8jk

The 10 amazing benefits of Roller Skating for your health

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The 10 amazing benefits of Roller Skating for your health

When you think about your shape, your mind probably wanders immediately to the well-known weight loss methods. Such as fitness, walking, swimming, running, cycling and yoga. However, a popular sport to lose weight and improve your fitness is Roller Skating. There are so many health benefits that will surprise you. It’s also fun!

Here are 10 benefits of Roller Skating and the reasons why you should do it:

  1. Roller Skating burns calories

To lose weight you need to burn more calories than you consume daily. There are great ways to burn calories, but let’s face it – they are not always fun. Roller Skating on the other hand can simply mean putting on your skates and going to the park. Commonly, it does not matter what type you choose to burn calories.

As a cardiovascular activity, it makes the heart work harder. You sweat and if you exercise regularly and follow a healthy diet, you will soon see the fat go away.

How many calories?

With a leisurely walk of 30 minutes and 250 calories! Always depending on your body weight and the type of skating. So, if you do 30 minutes five times a week, you will burn about 1250 calories.

  1. You build muscle

Skating is a cardio exercise. But it also contributes to the strengthening and tightening of certain areas. Including the abdomen, buttocks, thighs.

The buttocks get the best workout. Every time you skate, you turn, bend and lower. Your quadriceps, hips and thighs will all feel the “burning”. after constantly moving your legs back and forth.

If you are overweight, you will need a little more time to see changes in your muscles. But once you lose a few pounds, you will notice the difference.

  1. Improves your balance

Some people have a natural balance. For many, however, this is not something that comes naturally. Balance can affect the way you walk and do specific sports and activities.

Roller Skating improves balance thanks to the muscles used during skating. Especially the muscles of the back and abdomen. It requires you to maintain a stable core, in order to remain upright. Which is the perfect recipe if you want to achieve a better balance.

  1. Roller Skating contributes to heart health

As an effective form of aerobic exercise. Increases the average heart rate of the skater from 140-160 beats per minute. And if you participate in Roller Skating speed, you dramatically increase your heart rate to about 180 beats per minute.

  1. You fight diabetes

Roller Skating strengthens the heart and bones, relieves stress, lowers blood glucose levels and improves cholesterol levels. All of these factors affect diabetes, so in fact, you can skate to control diabetes or maybe even prevent it.

Doctors recommend that patients with diabetes and those considered “at risk” aim for about 30 minutes of light to moderate aerobic exercise 5 days a week. You can do more than this recommended to control your diabetes.

  1. You gain more power

Another great health benefit of skating is that it helps with strengthening. It is a full-body workout, but of course there are certain areas and muscle groups that work out the most.

  1. Improves muscle endurance

With increasing strength comes a huge boost in muscular endurance. You will gradually find that you can do Roller Skating for a longer period of time, as well as other exercises.

  1. Prevents injuries

Contrary to many people’s beliefs, skating is much safer. We are not talking about falls or scratches on the knees. But in the most serious injuries of muscles and joints.

According to studies, it weighs 50% less on the joints compared to other sports, such as running.

  1. Roller Skating makes you happy

Roller Skating clears the mind, minimizes mild forms of depression and makes you happy. It also reduces “bad” hormones, while increasing endorphins. Endorphins relieve “brain pain” and thanks to aerobic training from skating you will feel really good. While your concentration improves. And if you want to make friends, you will have even more fun.

  1. Live a life without stress thanks to your Roll

Skating minimizes stress. Doing it at a slower pace is a relaxing activity. Choose a quiet scenic location that is ideal for skating. Benefit from the moment by focusing on the environment, breathing and fresh air.

from: https://www.savoirville.gr/10-ofeli-gia-tin-ygeia-kanontas-roll-skating/

What makes a partner emotionally unavailable?

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What makes a partner emotionally unavailable?

The partner who is not emotionally available can be in love with you and have a great time. However, it does not put energy into the relationship: you are the one who makes plans, who arranges what you will do, who keeps the line of communication open.

The partner who is not emotionally available keeps his distance. He will get up and leave, he will not ask you to stay the night with him, he will cancel your plans, he will let you wait for your appointment, he will let many days pass from one meeting to the next. Although he does not say it in words, his behavior shows you that he keeps his distance from you, that he is not “given”.


Partner who are not emotionally available:

-They behave selfishly

-They let you do all the work to keep the relationship goingThey keep an emotional distance

-They are not bound

-They are superficial

-They do not respect your time, effort, needs

-They prefer their job or their friends instead of you

-They blame you solely for the problems in your relationship

-They often put conditions on you, such as: “If you do not do the A, know that I will do the B”, resulting in you being blackmailed emotionally.


What is the main problem that arises in the relationship?

The main problem that arises in the relationship is that the two people want completely different things: the woman wants the relationship to end in marriage and family, while the man sees the relationship as something ephemeral, to have a good time and nothing more. But this way the couple starts from a different starting point and their desires prove to be conflicting. The paradox is that these two people have a relationship, but in the end they do not have the relationship that each of them needs, so they both suffer and fight.

What are the types that are usually not emotionally available?

The man who is not emotionally available often has deeper insecurities and low self-esteem, characteristics that he keeps well hidden and often does not even realize that he has them.

He is usually a person with low emotional intelligence and immaturity, although he may be capable and successful at his job at the same time. Lack of emotional intelligence means that he does not understand exactly how he feels, nor does he understand the feelings of others. He has not acquired empathy, the ability to understand how the other person feels, to communicate with him and to trust him.

Also, another characteristic of him is that he is extremely dedicated to his work. So, objectively, he has no time for you or for any serious relationship, except for superficial relationships that do not end in marriage.

Men who are very independent and have structured their lives around work and social life often do not want to change this balance and create a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. Their choice is to have a free lifestyle, which does not fit into a serious relationship.

Where do these difficulties come from?

These difficulties often come from a bad, indifferent, “cold”, or lacking relationship with the mother in childhood or with the father.

Is the fear of commitment more for men or women?

The fear of commitment traditionally concerns men, although recently we see that many women are afraid to commit at a young age or if they are not sure that they have found the right partner.

What is behind the fear of commitment?

A man, but also a woman, is afraid that if he commits to a “serious” relationship he will lose his freedom and control of his life. He is afraid that the woman will command him and that he will somehow fall behind or show his weaknesses. He may also not like the idea of ​​having sex with a partner. To these fears, however, is added a deeper insecurity, the doubt “am I good enough for a serious relationship?”. This insecurity in turn leads to the anxiety of rejection, such as “my girlfriend may find out that I am not as good as she imagines and get up to leave”. Here, of course, we enter deep waters, since these are deeper, unconscious fears, which this man has not sat down to think about completely objectively and clearly. Also, some men are afraid that if a woman comes too close to them, she will discover their flaws and reject them for this reason. These men are anxious about their appearance, but also about what others think of them. There is a common case that a man does not trust women in general, either because he grew up in a family with problems, or because he has been betrayed by an ex. Other men still suffer from “Peter Pan syndrome”, ie they are eternal teenagers, they refuse to grow up and mature and do not behave as befits their age. Therefore, their desire for a serious relationship and marriage is about the same as that of a teenager: to zero!

Are there types of women who are attracted to such men? What psychological gap pushes them into such problematic relationships?

The woman who chooses with men who are not emotionally available is usually attracted to a characteristic of this man, such as his beauty, or his humor, or whatever, without taking into account other characteristics or weaknesses. In short, this woman makes an idealized view of the man in her mind. She falls more in love with the fantasy she has about the man, what she needs, and less with the specific man. Also, a woman who does not know herself well, who carries wounds from her past, tries to find a “savior”, a man who will save her from her problems. Finally, a woman may unconsciously not believe in her personal worth and consider that she does not deserve love and happiness in her life, so she unconsciously constantly makes wrong choices.

But remember that people get stuck in a partner and become obsessed when that person confirms their deepest concerns. Thus, a woman with anxiety and low self-esteem will fall madly in love with someone who reinforces these insecurities, these weak parts of her character.

What are they trying to fix by staying in the relationship?

Women who remain in an apparently deficient relationship are essentially trying to correct themselves, to prove that they are worthy and that they will succeed. And the worse the relationship, the more understanding this woman shows, the more patience she shows and the more tolerant she becomes. The reason is that she believes so little in herself that she considers herself lost and a “nothing” outside the relationship. This woman has low self-esteem and self-confidence. On the other hand, she has idealized the man to such an extent that she does not psychologically see that he is unsuitable for the kind of relationship she wants. However, she insists, because she believes that if she keeps this relationship is the biggest proof that she is worth it.

After all, is there a way to work out a relationship where one is not emotionally available?

Unfortunately, when a person is not emotionally available, when he does not want to go into a serious relationship, the woman can not do many things. The man who is not emotionally available is essentially absent and does not have the desire to have a serious relationship. A visit to the specialist can help when this man finds out for himself that he wants to continue with his girlfriend, but he feels that something is blocking him. Just as you need two partners to dance tango, so you need two members for a relationship to work. But persuasion, threats, coercion and compulsory treatment do not solve the problem. If the emotionally unavailable person recognizes that he or she has difficulty committing, that his or her life is emotionally poor, or that all of his or her relationships are badly broken, and that he or she seeks treatment, it can certainly change.

from: https://bestofyou.gr/cat/psyhologia/sheseis/giati-eroteyomaste-toys-lathoys-anthropoys

Why Egoism Dissolves Your Relationships

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Why Egoism Dissolves Your Relationships

Selfishness Dissolves Relationships…

Selfishness is something we all have. If we look closely at ourselves, we will find that we all behave selfishly at times.

However, if the element of selfishness is strong in the relationship, it is very likely to be the reason that this particular relationship (or all your relationships) is not healthy and functional.

It makes sense to be selfish sometimes. However, we must recognize this feeling but also accept it, so that it does not gradually become an obstacle to building quality relationships.

Many times, both people behave selfishly in a relationship. As a result, there are many conflicts and tensions and the relationship may even lead to separation.

If there is no mutual understanding and mutual respect, as well as the intention to put each other in their place, then the rupture is one of the possible endings of the relationship.

But what are the characteristics of a selfish person?

What causes egoism when it is largely in the relationship? And how can he finally break it up?

The Main Characteristics of a Selfish Man

We can very easily distinguish a selfish one, as long as we know its basic characteristics.

The most common and most easily found in a person who is selfish, and of course in our partner, are the following:

#1 He does not admit his mistakes.

#2 He never makes concessions.

#3 He always wants to be right.

#4 He blames others for his mistakes.

#5 He does not care about the emotional impact of his actions on those around him. Recognizes the points that someone is vulnerable and uses them against him.

#6 He may show manipulative behavior in order to pass his own.

#7 He considers himself superior to others.

#8 He wants to control everything.

#9 It is not easy to share.

#10 It offers no value to others.

Of course, it is extremely rare for someone to combine all ten of these features. Usually, selfish people combine some of these characteristics. However, this list is a sample of the most basic behaviors that one who is selfish can have.

But if one exhibits only one or two of these behaviors, then this does not necessarily mean that one is selfish. He just has some weaknesses and some selfish behaviors, like all of us.

How Selfishness Dissolves Your Relationships

In any case, whatever person you have towards you and no matter how selfish it seems to you, in the end you will have to look at yourself and find how you will function better, you will not behave selfishly and of course, you will be able to deal with them selfish around you.

Once you realize that there is nothing more important than yourself, you will be able to deal with what arises and most importantly, eliminate your selfish behaviors in your relationships.

Because it all starts with us.

Many times, selfish people become toxic and create toxic relationships.

1. Selfishness Dissolves Your Relationships Because Due To Selfishness, You Don’t Communicate Properly With Woman

Selfishness prevents you from creating a quality and deep communication with your partner.

If you are both selfish, it will be very difficult to communicate effectively, as you both want to be right and you have no intention of resolving your issues.

This can often bring you into conflict and ruin your relationship in the long run.

2. There Are Often Conflicts, Tensions And Improper Behaviors

Precisely because you can not really communicate, there are frequent tensions and conflicts in the relationship.

This is due to the fact that you both refuse to make concessions and put yourself in each other’s shoes.

In your mind, it is more valuable to be right than to have a functional and harmonious relationship.

Therefore, when something goes wrong in the relationship, you collide and do not finally resolve the issue.

3. You Are Not In The mood to really listen to each other because you are selfish

Selfishness gets in the way of really listening to what the other person has to say, as everyone only thinks about what they want to say.

Also, because selfish people tend to blame those around them, it will be very difficult for them to become active listeners.

Essentially, they do not care what the other person has to say, as long as their own is heard and they are right.

This creates huge issues in the relationship in the long run, as you have virtually no intention of listening to how the other person feels, as long as you do not back down and show that you were wrong.

  1. Because of Selfishness, You Do Not Understand How the Other Feels

Because the selfish person only looks to be good to himself and is indifferent to the feelings that his actions create in others, he refuses to take the place of his interlocutor and to understand how it can make him feel.

And that can be catastrophic.

If there is no empathy in a relationship, then toxic and negative emotions will be constantly created.

One or both will feel permanently wronged and that their partner is not interested in how they feel.

In a healthy relationship, people want and seek to be and feel good about their partner.

If this very important part is missing, then the relationship becomes catastrophic.

You have to be very careful, because a selfish behavior easily turns into manipulative.

In closing, I want to emphasize that every relationship has pieces that are not so functional.

However, keeping both people constantly selfish can be extremely toxic to both or even lead to separation.

That’s why it’s good to work on our selfish parts and, above all, to accept them. Recognizing and accepting these behaviors is the first step towards their complete elimination.

In addition, we need to understand that a healthy relationship needs empathy, that is, the ability to recognize and care for the other person’s feelings. As well as mutual concessions when needed.

If we operate selfishly, then we do not care to have a successful and quality relationship, but to be good only ourselves.

And this, of course, never leads to the desired erotic results.

from greek article: https://www.menofstyle.gr/giati-o-egoismos-dialyei-tis-scheseis-soy/?fbclid=IwAR39fb4WHntuwPsPLC7CQ5YHFaxAy4n3WcbdiyIXGSW3MEp8nyZATMbjszE

Dubai has opened the largest diving pool in the world

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Dubai has opened the largest diving pool in the world

Dubai is known for its stunning sights and now, with the opening of Deep Dive Dubai, it can add a world record to its list of achievements. As the deepest swimming pool in the world, Deep Dive Dubai has a “sunken city” at 14 million liters of water.

The amount of water in the pool fills 6 Olympic pools and, with a depth of 60 meters, is four times larger than its nearest competitor. It contains a revealing sunken city for divers to explore, which opens before divers’ eyes as they dive deeper into the pool. The idea is that nature has slowly taken over this forgotten city, with shop windows, houses, cars and electronic games slowly eroding.

Along the way, there are two diving areas that allow divers to relax and chat. This unique feature of Deep Dive Dubai is a dry air area where divers can even remove their equipment and get completely out of the water. Developed as a world-class destination for divers, there are options for everyone. Both beginners and experienced divers can enjoy the experience, and there is also a comprehensive development program for those wishing to improve their skills.

The facility’s director, Jarrod Jablonski, is a world-record cave diver and is proud of Deep Dive Dubai’s commitment to safety and best practices. “From its design, Deep Dive Dubai offers something truly unique for everyone and our team is committed to providing an unforgettable experience, with great service, for everyone, every time,” says Jablonski. “For those looking for a unique experience, Deep Dive Dubai offers a great, safe and controlled environment to learn all about diving. For the experienced members of the diving community (free and not), it is an installation and an experience that is not comparable to any other “.

Deep Dive Dubai also operates as an underwater movie studio, with a multimedia processing room, special background, 56 underwater cameras and the ability to create different conditions with 164 lights placed throughout the pool. And as if that weren’t enough, the exterior of Deep Dive Dubai is just as impressive as its interior. Designed to mimic a giant oyster, the entire building is a commentary on the UAE heritage for diving in search of pearls.

Deep Dive Dubai is open for bookings, and the public can book snorkeling, scuba diving and scuba diving experiences. Here is a short video that reveals how unique the experience is offered to diving enthusiasts.

What should I do if my Partner has Depression?

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What should I do if my Partner has Depression?

Depression in many cases reduces the quality of everyday life for those who experience it. The consequences for those who experience it for a long time and simply remain passive, can be far-reaching and potentially dangerous.

All well and good … but what do we do when this person we mentioned above is our partner?

Problems affect every aspect of the relationship and the family and can have devastating consequences for the smooth running of the relationship.

How do you know if your partner may be depressed?

One of the biggest problems with depression is that it can be difficult to recognize even by the person suffering from it. The person who experiences it begins to realize that something is wrong when he begins to “fight” for everyday life and for the things that until yesterday he did easily. Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic driven world of Earl.

Some first signs are that we notice this person looking a little bored and maybe lazy in doing things / habits. He also usually sighs when we ask “what do you have?” “he answers nothing”. He does not want to do things that he used to and you will mainly be concerned with the fact that there is no expression of interest as a sexual partner towards you.

These behaviors can be accidental and you should not worry immediately. It can be just a period of intense reflection up to issues within the marriage.

How do you know if it is really depression?

Depression is different from going through sadness or temporary frustration with life issues. There are many common signs that depression is present, especially when these symptoms tend to be persistent. These include:

Withdrawal. If your partner is experiencing a growing withdrawal from social activities and possibly from you, this may be a sign of depression. Depression isolates the one who experiences it. When one is depressed one feels exhausted to the point that one is unable to communicate with others even in a basic way.

Log out. As with withdrawing from social life, you may find that your partner is beginning to move away from hobbies or habits he once enjoyed. He may now feel as if he has too much work to fill all hours of the day. Or for example when he was once motivated and tried to complete some responsibilities such as housework, a job for work that will help in his professional development, now he no longer does it by choosing instead to watch TV or sleep.

Exhaustion / Fatigue. Depression is exhausting for the person suffering from it. If your partner sleeps more or is tired all the time, this may be a sign of depression.

Anger / Irritability. When a once-easy spouse gets angry or sad when a hat falls off, he or she may experience depression. Anger is a special sign in men.

Changes in the bedroom. Unsurprisingly, along with the other symptoms of depression, you may also see changes in lovemaking. This can be one of the strongest signs of a problem. If your sex life has deteriorated and you are experiencing any of the other symptoms listed, you may have to deal with a partner who is suffering from depression.
These are just some of the common symptoms of depression. The combination can vary, as can the severity of each. However, seeing these signs in your partner, it is worth considering depression as a possible cause.

What should you do if you suspect that your partner needs care?

Clinical depression is not likely to go away on its own. It is not a passing phase, nor is it your fault. The longer someone experiences depression and the lack of the right approach, the more difficult your relationship will be. People who do not seek treatment can lead to unstable behavior, substance abuse or even suicide. If you think your partner may be depressed, you need to take action and seek professional diagnosis.

But how can we support the person next to us?

Here are 5 key ways we can help:

  1. Take care of yourself. As paradoxical as it may sound, taking care of ourselves must be a priority. We can not help our man if we do not “step” well on our feet. And yet, our tendency and the dynamic of the relationship is often to “tune in” with our partner, to avoid friends and activities with the illusion that this is how we support each other. Other times, we tend to limit our personal development or even the pleasure of everyday life with the logic that with our partner “we are one”.

This is a trap that usually ends up forming an interdependent relationship that fixes not only one, but both partners. It is easier for our partner to strengthen himself in the direction of dealing with depression, when we insist on respecting ourselves and meeting his needs.

  1. Create an “open arms” environment. When our partner experiences depression, he often acts with distrust and doubt about his environment and the degree to which he can “endure” and support him. That is why often our partner can cause us to leave him, to quarrel with him, to move away.

But what we can do is act like a steady, warm embrace that is always there. This does not mean coordination with the other’s mood, but endurance and acceptance of the other’s reality.

  1. Remember: man is not his disease. The face of depression often makes us forget the character, personality, value of the person next to us. It is easy to fall into the trap of considering the other “lazy”, saying that “he does not communicate”, that “he is not negative”. This trap recycles and enhances the feeling of shame and self-loathing that often accompanies depression.

But what helps is that we systematically remind ourselves first and then our partner of everything that makes him special and important to us. It is important not to “talk” only about the characteristics of depression, but to communicate, wait and remind all those elements for which we appreciate, respect and want the person next to us.

  1. Detoxify the relationship environment. It is not your responsibility to “save” your partner, even if this is your first tendency. But it is up to you to keep the “toxicity” of the relationship low. Practically, this means that it is important to maintain a communication without high emotion, a healthy lifestyle with exercise and proper nutrition, a healthy social life. This requires constant effort but can increase our partner’s ability to help.
  2. Depression does not end the relationship. The fact of a serious mental illness does not eliminate the reality and needs of a companionship. As partners, we need to be in touch with our needs, the need for companionship, communication, sexual contact. We need to express these needs, to claim the presence and closeness with our partner. The goal is not to become the parent of our partner but to remain in our extremely important partner role.

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3 reason why travelling is good for you at least 4 times at year

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3 reason why travelling is good for you at least 4 times at year

Travels is not a thing, is a passion and you must to try for that! You can travel all over the world and you can met and see different things, you can not imagine in your eyes. Maybe your country is good for you to stay a long time and forever, but for your health and for yourself it’s to much better to travel other country in the world. Why? Let’s read the 3 reason why travelling is good for you and it’s good to travelling at least 4 times at year!! 

#1 Relieves Stress and Boosts Mental Health

Pulling yourself out of your daily routines and into new surroundings resets both your mind and body, resulting in significant stress relief. Having something to look forward to, even if it’s a two-day trip, can feel rewarding. Vacationers also likely experience less stress and more satisfaction with their overall mood and outlook after returning from a trip compared to non-travelers. 

#2 Traveling helps you learn who you are and you learn new things

Believe it!  You can learn who you are, you can learn the other side yourself. Travels open your eyes and your heart. Also you learn new fantastic things and new people all over the world. Meeting people from other cultures will teach you that the way you’ve been looking at the world isn’t the way everybody else does. In fact, your point-of-view might have some major blind spots. Seeing the world for yourself will improve your vision and your grip on reality.

#3 Travel helps you move forward and take decisions of your life

A big trip won’t just ease your transition into the next stage of your life, it’ll give you a chance to reflect on where you’ve been, where you’re going, and where you want to end up. Also, you can make important decisions in your life and do something that you have postponed.

You still staying at home? Book now a ticket and get ready to met a new world and new people!! Get the chance on your hands.