Does your man show you ungratefulness?
One of the most common forms of mental illness is ungratefulness . Those who consider the characterization excessive should think about how reasonable and normal behavior it can be, to fold the hand that hugged you and offered you help.
The many faces of ignorance are manifested by not appreciating something that has been given to you to enjoy and destroying it, such as the environment. When you have been given something in abundance and you do not share anything with the less favored who are in need and lack. When you do not recognize anything in those who have contributed to your success, only yourself.
Ungrateful is he who no matter what you do for him is never satisfied. One who erases what others have done for him and turns against them when a mistake is made. It always remains difficult and painful to accept that one of our own people will be against us as an enemy.
We find it hard to accept that a relative, partner, colleague, friend can betray us, deceive us and hurt us, forgetting the trust, the love, the generosity, the time we have devoted or even the sacrifices we have made for him. . Let us not forget, though, that Judas was one of Jesus’ disciples.
Ingratitude and ignorance are not just bad behaviors and a sign of our times.
Not appreciating is a mental disability. Not being in a good mood to reciprocate love or help to some degree, in some form, indicates mental poverty and narcissism. To unhesitatingly hurt someone who has treated you well is considered a nasty disease of the soul that needs treatment.
The man who has a deactivated conscience finds excuses for his every action. Lack of empathy for fellow human beings makes him ruthless, egocentric, toxic.
Is the lack of education a matter of genes, experiences? Undoubtedly, the environment can play a role in the psyche and values of the individual. The way they have nurtured you and treated you, influence future behaviors and choices to some extent. The reasons are many and the excuses even more.
Beyond describing the phenomenon, what we need to do is take personal responsibility for our actions in the here and now. Each of us is called to improve and evolve ourselves by any means at our disposal.
The key to conversion is introspection, self-awareness and spirituality. Man changes and moves beyond genes, labels and experiences if he wants to and tries. Life acquires meaning only when we begin to tame instincts and illuminate dark corners of our being.
So what can you do to deal with such a person?
Express your feelings openly. The first thing you need to do is discuss your feelings with that person. Explain to him how he feels when he treats you this way. He mentioned specific incidents so that he could also understand. Some people do not realize that they are often rude or ignorant. Also, many take “thank you” for granted. So, if the person realizes that he did something wrong, he will apologize to you and try not to do it again. On the other hand, there are people who will not admit that they made a mistake, will get angry and will react badly. In this case the person may face some other problems and behave in this way. If this happens, stop the conversation politely and do not continue.
Stop being so generous with him. If you realize that talking to him did not solve the problem and he continues to behave in the same way, then you need to stop being so generous. Ungrateful people never stop asking and demanding. The more you give them, the more they wait. Stop giving to people who do not appreciate it. Start saying “no” every time they ask you for something. Many times when they stop taking they go away and get lost, looking for the next available person to give them. Callimachus emphasizes that “there is no more certain enemy than the ungrateful one who benefited.”
Move away and help more people who appreciate your effort. It is certainly the most difficult choice, especially if these people are years in your life, but it is necessary for your peace of mind and balance. People who are ungrateful and constantly ask you to leave your life as soon as possible. There are so many people around you that make you smile, feel good and really appreciate what you give them even if it is small. So why continue to dedicate your time to people who constantly whine and “take advantage” of you?
Remember that every person has to make a very important choice during his life: Whether he will follow the path of gratitude for all that he has or the path of ingratitude for what he does not have. It is his personal choice whether he will be happy or unhappy. So, if some people in your life have chosen the second path, you do not have to stay with them. Get closer to the people who make you smile and appreciate what you give them. Remember the words of Earl Nightingale: “our attitude towards life determines the way life itself will treat us”.