9 signs that someone is suppressing their emotions
The suppression of our emotions consists mainly of two aspects. On the one hand, the inner repulsion from the person, that is, the refusal to accept what he feels and on the other hand, the hiding of these feelings from those around him. Therefore, this is a difficult situation to detect. So how do we know if someone is having difficulty managing their emotions?
- They have an awkward, cold attitude
Dystrophy is a temporary release of the tension that prevails within them. It is the result of something that devours them, because they have combined happiness and positive mood only with a specific result, which they did not get. Maybe the person they liked betrayed or humiliated them and the pain boils inside them. Or maybe someone else in their work got the credit for a job they did. It is nothing more than a psychological defense mechanism used to avoid a violent outburst.
- They feel alone
They spend their weekends, like most of their nights, at home, watching endless series / movies / shows to be forgotten, as they feel that no one can understand them. They are isolated and do not even answer the calls of their close friends. If you think this is the case, knock on their door. Maybe you can help them externalize what they are hiding and what they are hiding from.
- They remain silent
They say that silence can be deafening. From someone who suppresses his emotions, it is a cry for help, even if it is silent! This is another defense mechanism, in order to keep what is drowning them inside and not to lose control. It can also be a way to show someone your displeasure with him.
They can create them in various forms, such as at work, games, people, outings, sex and the list goes on. Distractions are used to prevent their oppressed emotions from exploding and to avoid managing and processing them. After all, in this way, they turn the attention of those around them to issues other than their own. However, these distractions can only be temporary in a persistent problem.
This means avoiding the cause that brings with it negative emotions. Stimuli that include people, objects, places, events that had a bad ending and more. This, as you will see at the last sign, is a way of avoiding the person to face his demons.
- Substance dependence
Substance and alcohol abuse is another defense mechanism that is unfortunately very common. The range of substances varies from alcohol to heroin and harsh stimulants. This, as you probably know, can lead to addiction, possible illness and death. And once again, these supposedly “solutions” are a rough, temporary measure.
- Poor memory
As these individuals become more focused on finding ways to suppress their emotions, they tend to forget often and not be able to recognize the respective social conditions that govern each particular social environment. This obviously leads to a lack of communication and an obvious drop in the level of satisfaction from relationships with others, especially from their love affairs.
- Weight gain
Cortisol, the “stress hormone”, is released in the body to stop the function of two other hormones, adrenaline and corticotropin, which are responsible for temporarily reducing appetite. Once these two hormones disappear, cortisol stays and the appetite returns and makes us eat more. It can also be stored as “visceral fat” as well as abdominal fat. When the oppression of emotions continues for a long time it turns into stress, which triggers weight gain.
- Deterioration of the health of the gastrointestinal tract
As our brain and gastrointestinal system are interconnected, since the latter is defined as the “second brain”, the effect on it can be intense, with many unpleasant symptoms. These may include: upset stomach, indigestion, bloating, diarrhea and nausea.
And the truth is that whatever we feel will be seen sooner or later. So if you do not do it, with your will and in a chosen and safe context, your strong feelings for you will do it. So isn’t it time for you to edit it too?